Saturday, November 29, 2014

Christian Romance

Hello again!  I'm having a wonderful fall, I hope you are as well.
I have been offline for a while.  And plan to be off again, for a while.  Its given me time to think...

A few months ago our family got to visit a friend of ours and we got to talking.  Our subject: Christian Romance and Love.   The article that I shared with you all here a while back ("Always Ravished with Love") sorta spurred the conversation.  Anyway, from what I understand my friend believes two individuals must be all out 'in love' before they marry each other, for it to work.

I disagree.  Not totally, but I disagree that this is a must to get married.  In some cases I do find its a must for the two parties to be 'in love', but in others it isn't necessary at all.

For example, I know that throughout history (even up to the early-mid 1900s) many couples were arranged to marry.  They were either 'ordained' to marry so and so or their partner was picked when they were children, or they were told to marry such and such for their position in society.

Many of these couples married and remained happily married up until they died and they learned to love each other after marriage.   I'm don't deny it that some of these couples never learned to love their spouse, and rued the entire arranged marriage sadly till they died, utterly unhappy and ill-wed all their life.    But my point is that its not a guarantee (as the Ravished article seemed to say it is...) that if you are 'in-love' to begin with you will have a happy blessed marriage (this has been proven over and over in this modern era of the sex revolution where marriage='love' and 'romance' 24/7.  And if you don't find it the world tells you that its your 'right' to divorce).    

My friend, said he wants a love like Solomon's (in the book of Song of Solomon).  But this book, last I checked, is about a married couple and  is certainly not of how they met nor of the prior to marriage.  This is where I am in disagreement totally with him.  You will not always find your spouse with an instant revelation or spark of 'love at first' sight, most of the time actually you have to spend time together to let love grow (as it describes in the Ravished with Love article).
My sister for instance is now married and in love with a wonderful man!  They met in 2009 and never said a word to each other.  He actually talked with my other sister and I.  And then three years later he thought of Christina, who was nearer his age, so he contacted her.  They wrote each other and were soon in love and married!  They were in love before they married but not at first glance.  She actually thought she liked someone else at that time ;)

And another thing, God's plan for each couple is vastly different and never the same.  He created heaven and earth and we seem to beg and yearn to know his 'recipe' for finding a spouse and getting married, but to my knowledge he left us no such recipe.  And to me I don't think one exists!

He only left us a book of what a good person is like and what a bad one's like.  And he leaves it up for us to decide.  (I wrote more about this here).

I am just saying that one could marry without love if need be.  For instance in case of a man who's wife died and another lady came along that was good with children they could marry without love for the children's sake (like in the movie "Apple Dumpling Gang").   But I'm not saying marry someone you absolutely hate.  That would be a dumb mistake on your part (as you'd have to live with them the rest of your life).  I'm saying someone you know you could live with and you felt it was the path God was leading you to.  Not go out and marry a guy with kids.  God has rules and he loves us too much to let us end up in an unhappy marriage.  But I'm saying you could marry anyone whom you feel the Lord was leading you to marry regardless of your feeling in love or not.  There was a girl I read an article by.  She was in a courtship with a very Godly guy, whom she didn't really know.  And she knew God was leading them together and she felt it was his will for her.  So she (feeling it was too weird to marry without love) prayed and asked God to give her a love for the man before they got married.  Sure enough he did!   I just know I don't have to have love to marry a man if I knew he was the one God wanted me to marry.  And this 'love' business is just to glorified in this day and age and I'm sick of it sometimes.  Sorry for my crassness.

Just obey God no matter what.  The world swears we must have love to marry or just have it 'good'. But the Lord may call you to a marriage without knock-out sensual (worldly) love at first sight.  And He is all love himself and I know he loves to reward and give wonderful gifts of joy and peace to those who follow him, regardless.

Anyway this is just my take on the whole 'in love' issue.  It would be very nice, if I fell in love. And hopefully before marriage, but whatever my Lord wishes and he will direct me who to marry, whether he gives me love before or after "I do"! :)

The King's child,

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Give Thanks

Its been a nice Tuesday!  And Melody is 25 today!  And its a girl's party at my Memaw's tomorrow. So some free time, YAY!

So for about two years now I've been wondering what the will of God was for me personally.   Along with this (more recently about this last half year) I've been noticing thankfulness in the bible, thanksgiving, give thanks, with thanks etc.  Its mentioned quite often through out the bible its amazing.
Thus this past Sunday I heard a sermon this, about Thankfulness.  For thanksgiving! :D  Thus I've been learning to be thankful.  Seriously.
His sermon was about how thankfulness 'repairs' your heart, as in an heart disease, you take certain 'repair drugs' or surgeries to fix your heart.  And so spiritually thankfulness makes you spiritually grow, it makes your faith grow too, as in thankfulness you realize God has already provided everything! The verse he used for the whole thing was 1st Thessalonians 5:18.

1Thess 5:18 KJV "In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you."

Its simple.  In growing up into adulthood, I tend to start thinking too seriously.  And thus I think EVERYTHING is too complicated!  But its not with Christ! :D   He's made it simple enough for a child to understand.  And its all FOR a reason.  He tells us NOT to worry, as its better for our hearts, minds, souls and bodies NOT to!  How awesome is he!
And he died for us and we still have to make life complicated!  Adulthood ain't that different, its just life, only you're in 'up to your neck'!  (to quote Gregory Peck in "Guns of Naverone").   We're still God's children and that's what's AWESOME we can become kids again and carelessly rest in our Daddy's lap, he's got it ALL under control! :D

Its just cool how he put it all together for me! :)  And what a study it'd be to look up thankfulness in the bible!

Thank you for reading and let me know what you're learning this Thanksgiving season!
His gal,

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Kindness at Home

My friends!  You all know how home life is, a bit too 'real' right?  Like waking up isn't a scene from It's a Wonderful Life where all the kids are so sweet and kind.

Its not as lovely as we would wish or like.  Home life is a battle as a Christian family.  Satan is there to whisper lies to everyone, and the angels of the Lord and he, is just sitting there to help, but we hardly ask we strive to do it on our own, by ourselves and we always fail.

I've been deceived by satan's lies and I'm tired of it all.  Its not fun trying to do it anymore.  Its work, useless work that we'll never win alone.

These are some lovely candles my dear friend Beth makes!
Its time to give up and let the Lord battle for us.  He can do it WAY better anyway.

I've been reading James.  And I love chapter 3.  But it also scares me.  As I with my mouth, having been setting afire the course of nature with fire from hell.

[James 3:1-18 KJV] "1 My brethren, be not many masters, knowing that we shall receive the greater condemnation. 2 For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same [is] a perfect man, [and] able also to bridle the whole body. 3 Behold, we put bits in the horses' mouths, that they may obey us; and we turn about their whole body. 4 Behold also the ships, which though [they be] so great, and [are] driven of fierce winds, yet are they turned about with a very small helm, whithersoever the governor listeth. 5 Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! 6 And the tongue [is] a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell. 7 For every kind of beasts, and of birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed of mankind: 8 But the tongue can no man tame; [it is] an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. 9 Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God. 10 Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be. 11 Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet [water] and bitter? 12 Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so [can] no fountain both yield salt water and fresh. 13 Who [is] a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him shew out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom. 14 But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. 15 This wisdom descendeth not from above, but [is] earthly, sensual, devilish. 16 For where envying and strife [is], there [is] confusion and every evil work. 17 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, [and] easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. 18 And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace."

Together as God's children we need to obey him, and yield to him.  No other.  And we NEED to continue to PRAY for each other.  Everyone, even that annoying sibling in Christ at church or at the last gathering.

I along with everyone could use prayer.  And also don't forget that as we are going through so much ourselves what about each one of our siblings and our future spouses?  They too are all Christians learning to trust the Lord completely and learning his will for us!

[Pro 17:1 KJV]
"Better [is] a dry morsel, and quietness therewith, than an house full of sacrifices [with] strife."
(All of Proverbs 17 is good, like verse 9)

His Girl,
Faith Elizabeth

Monday, November 3, 2014

Continue in Prayer...

"Watch ye therefore, and pray always, that ye may be accounted worthy to escape all these things that shall come to pass, and to stand before the Son of man." - Luke 21:36 KJV

In the book "Preparing to be a Helpmeet" (which I wrote about here) I read one very important thing, which has helped and stuck out to me.  The author, Debi Pearl, encourages to pray for the men around us and for Christian men and Christians around the world.
Interestingly enough another Christian lady, yesterday, wrote a blog post about the same thing here.

As Christians we need to continue in prayer always.  We are urged to in the bible (below Rom. 12:12).  To start with I've learned to pray for my brothers, John and James, who will someday be heads of families and need to be even stronger men of God than they are now.  They need prayer to battle this rotten world.  Its a struggle everyday- for every one of us.  Its a battle and we're constantly on the battlefield warring against satan.
"10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. 11 Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. 12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high [places]." - Eph 6:10-12 KJV

We all need to pray for our Christian siblings.  Married, single, struggling or prospering alike.  I like to pray for those around me.  And yes for those whom I'm attracted to as well.  
Pray that in all these different lives the Lord's will be done and that they seek the Lord in all they do.  And oh what joy it is to pray!  But we mustn't pray in the streets or on the roof tops shouting our prayers and bragging how much we do pray.

And also just, for us dreamy eyed folks... (men and women alike) I've learned its good to pray for those we're attracted to, but there is a huge snare if we aren't careful.  We can idolize someone very easily, and its okay to love someone, whom you're close to a courtship or relationship with, but even through 'praying for' someone we can turn them into a god, and thus defile ourselves before the Lord.  I still pray for those I'm attracted to, but if they are gaining WAY too much of my mind, and becoming an idol even over the Lord, then I stop for a while and remember to focus and pray for my future husband, whoever he is.  And also I try to pray for at least one unsaved person I know.  Or some struggling Christian sibling.  It keeps my eyes on higher things.  And reminds me that my ultimate home is in heaven.  :)  

I'm still learning the balance between idolizing and love... its tricky... And sorta hard when it only in one's head. ;)   I just keep my eyes on the father and continue to pray for those around me.

This is such a blessing:
"10 [Be] kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another; 11 Not slothful in business; fervent in spirit; serving the Lord; 12 Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer; 13 Distributing to the necessity of saints; given to hospitality." - Rom 12:10-13 KJV

Jesus' little girl,